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Comments:
Smed - 2007-01-22 11:48:07
Oh, I'm so sorry. It sounds like he's being a real ass about it, which is even worse. I am sure you will be strong and can carry on - you and your birds as well!
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Prolifique - 2007-01-22 11:48:26
a) I'm so very sorry that this is hurting you. and b) I don't think it's legal (and it's certainly not RIGHT) for him to just take all the money. Depending on the laws where you are, and whether it's a community-property state, he could be in a bit of trouble for doing that. Do NOT let sentiment get in the way of your rights, love.
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tou-mou - 2007-01-22 13:04:38
i'm so sorry..... but get yourself a good lawyer. it's absolutely not legal for him to take all the assets like that.
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chocolate chaos - 2007-01-22 13:56:44
im sorry too, splitting up is hard. but everyone else said what i would have, which is get a lawyer. he has no right to take all the money!
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Yvonne - 2007-01-22 14:12:29
Definitely get a lawyer! Thinking of you, Y.
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Stephanie - 2007-01-22 14:48:49
I, too, have to question the legality of what he is doing. That money is considered marital assets, and he can't just take it all for himself. Hire a lawyer, pronto! (Or call legal aid, or even family court if you have to.)
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LA - 2007-01-22 15:11:39
Don't settle for any old legal beagle either, hire yourself a pit bull, honey. You're going to need one. I'm glad my experience is helping, dear. Dump this asshole from your life and watch yourself grow and become strong and whole. You absolutely can do this. I KNOW you can. ~LA
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greenwitch - 2007-01-22 16:06:00
Hi there, I found my way over here from LA's place. What kind of birdies are those pretty creatures?
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Seacreature - 2007-01-22 18:53:52
Oh honey...I'm so sorry. But you deserve SO much better. I'm so proud of you for standing up for yourself. Now it's time to take the next step in reclaiming your life! Yes, be sure to get yourself a good lawyer...you need to know what your rights are first and foremost. Don't agree to anything before speaking to someone. Remember, I'm here for you...well, about as "here" as I can be! Especially if you have questions about your birdies. Here's to new beginnings...I believe in you!!! *HUGSHUGSHUGSHUGS*
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Smed - 2007-01-22 23:30:51
I did some Googling:
"The basic approach in Ohio is to determine what the parties' marital assets are, and then to divide them 50-50, even if one person earned more money than the other during the marriage - unless something very unusual has happened that would require the court to divide the property differently. It is important to distinguish among three types of property: separate property, pre-marital property, and marital property. Ohio is not a community property state. If either party claims that property is separate or pre-marital, the person making the claim must prove it."
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zen - 2007-01-23 11:45:19
hi greenwitch! welcome to my aviary! i have three parrots, a nanday conure named thea-bella, two green cheek conures named zoey and tucker. the man has an orange-winged amazon named hawk. thanks for visiting! and thank you all for the lovely comments, you have no idea how much it helps me! ~zen
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zen - 2007-01-23 11:51:37
smed, thank you so much!!! i didn't realize ohio was NOT a community property state, in fact i told the man that it is! he has always worked more and made more money than i...mostly due to all of my health problems. we didn't either one of us come into the marriage with many assets, just some furniture and vehicles and of course personal momentos. you know the thing i am worried about the most is dividing our fids. hawk and thea have been together for over ten years...thea is definitely my bird and hawk his. i'm so sad to seperate them. that's my main worry! ~zen
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