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LA - 2006-07-19 15:19:40
Sick it up as you need to, hon. Quietly listening here. ~LA
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Smash - 2006-07-19 15:29:36
Aww babe, I know I havent seen a piccy of you or anything but I bet youre not fat. Part of me thinks maybe your hubby feels a bit mad at himself for his inability to help you with your illness. But one the flip side, he has to realise he can't keep treating you like this. If he's been like this for a while though, perhaps talking won't do any good. I wish I knew what to advise :-( *big hugz* Smashxxx
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stepfordtart - 2006-07-19 16:42:20
men are all gits, zen. even the ones we love! s x PS, oh, and from the stats I'd say you're not fat. I assume the husband is a perfect physical specimen if he is able to say hurtful things like that?
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Julie - 2006-07-19 16:55:44
I agree with Smash, your husband is probably frustrated as hell because he can't relieve your pain. But he shouldn't take it out on you. Unfortunately, that happens to the lot of us. We take out our frustrations on those that we love the most...A LOT. However, he chose you to marry, despite all of your problems. He shouldn't talk to you in such a degrading manner. Calling you "fat" when he knows you have struggled with an eating disorder is completely uncalled for. I'm sorry, I don't mean to assume things and all...I have no idea what the dynamic of your marriage is. I just think that no amount of sweetness can make up for the stabbing emotional pain that comes from words.
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Renate - 2006-07-19 19:31:55
Boy, does this bring back memories! I am 5'9" and in my younger days a perfect weight for me was 135# (size 10). When I gained a mere 15# the ex started harrassing me about my tremendous weight gain, took a picture of me from behind to show me how fat my ass was getting, etc., etc. This all from a man that had been at least 40# overweight all the time I had known him. Who knows what makes guys like that turn on you. I guess frustration and unhappiness within themselves. Hang in there sweetie and know that you have a lot of people rooting for you and don't get back on that anorexia train!
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zen - 2006-07-19 20:28:27
thank you for your support guys...you don't know how much it means! i'm proud of myself for not fighting back with him. i'm just waiting for him to cool down, which he will. i'm trying to understand him and be patient...but damn he better hurry up and get his shit together! *smile*...~zen
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